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Be Kind To You

Last week I launched an impromptu challenge to all of our twitter followers. The concept seemed simple enough: write something positive about yourself down on a piece of paper and then stick it to your mirror…

Nothing complicated about that right? Well, not really. Have ever really thought about it: thought about the things that you think about? Thought about the way you see yourself? Thought about all of the times that you judge yourself? Well when it comes right down to it, there are way more negative thoughts floating around inside our heads than positive ones. This needs to stop! We need to get rid of these negative leeches but by doing taking this challenge with our followers, I discovered something. A big flaw in my strategy… You can’t just push the negative thoughts aside or magically find positive ones, it takes work and time.

So, we’ve adjusted the challenge. Basic psychology reminds us that you can’t change a habit (which is what thinking these negative thoughts is- a habit) You have to replace it with something else. So the revised challenge is to start by admitting that you are thinking negative thoughts and then re think the thought while looking for a positive silver lining…

Yes, ok… it might seem idealistic but why? Why can’t we take back control of our thoughts? Why can’t we fight to be positive? I don’t see any reason why we have to allow ourselves to stay trapped in this sucky circle of destruction. Yes, I know that sometimes we have mental health issues or even physical issues that can contribute to our negativity but that doesn’t mean we get to stop trying… it is still your life, no matter what!

So here’s the logistics

Step 1: Write down the negative thoughts that have gotten stuck in your head, on a piece of paper and stick it to your mirror. This might seem counter productive at first: why would you want to be reminded of the negative thoughts? Well, you don’t want to be reminded of it but you still have to admit to it to yourself before you can start working on changing it.

Step 2: This is crucial!! You need to take a second and re-think that negative thought and finding a silver lining to that dark cloud. Once you have thought of a less negative way of seeing that particular feature, write it on a piece of paper and stick it OVER that negative thought.

Yes, that is the challenge… Get rid of the negative thoughts in your head by putting them on paper and then replace that negative thought with a positive one: first on paper and then in your head and your heart.

This isn’t always going to be easy. This isn’t something you can do for a day and suddenly be fixed. This is just one more step we can actively take to get our lives back get control back.

Are you up for the challenge?